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Setting Boundaries (Especially Now)

I've been thinking a lot about boundary setting lately. Maybe it's because Tyler Calder has been talking about them on her Instagram stories, maybe it's because I've been having conversations about them in my own life (online and offline). But whatever the reason, I think it's important to talk about how we are setting boundaries for ourselves, our jobs, and our family and friends right now.
I strongly believe that it's important to set boundaries in your life in order to be safe and healthy, but COVID is making that even more clear to me. I'm constantly reassessing what I feel comfortable doing and where I feel comfortable going and having those conversations with B (my partner) and my friends and family. These can be hard conversations, and can certainly be awkward, but honestly...I'm more concerned about feeling safe than I am about making other people feel awkward. 
Right now, boundary setting for me looks like this: Talking with B before we go somewhe…

Self Care During a Pandemic

So it would seem like we're not going anywhere for a long while, which is frustrating to say the least, but I'm trying to not focus on that (at least not here, where I try to keep things slightly happier for myself). Since we're all trying to keep each other safe and keep our physical distance, I'm sharing some ways I've been taking care while staying home. Some of these things are strategies I've used for a long time and others are new to me, but they've all been good at helping me feel more centered and slightly less anxious about the current state of the world.
The first thing that I've been doing to take care is using Equilibria CBD. Going to get real honest here--I know this is an extremely bougie take that is about to follow, but hear me out. I don't like getting high, I truly hate the feeling (sorry to my family who is reading this). But I have been intrigued by using CBD to help lower anxiety and to help with sleep. So I was ~influenced~ by s…

What I'm Reading No. 4

Reminder: This is a post where I share non-book things that I've been reading and enjoying lately. It's kind of all over the place, but to be honest so is my brain so welcome to the mess.
Best friends, a love story An online comic story (??) about finding a new best friend as an adult and what that love looks like. This really resonated with me and made me tear up and you bet your ass I'm about to text it to a bunch of people I love.
There Are Real Reasons You're Playing Pandemic Pioneer Woman Like me, you probably saw lots of your friends or social media acquaintances start to do a lot of "pioneer" activities when the pandemic hit and we all started staying home. People were (are) planting gardens, baking bread from scratch, learning new recipes, sewing their clothes, and more. I thought it was because people were looking for things to fill their time, and that's definitely part of it, but this article gave a fascinating dive into this phenomenon. 
What Is an…

Reading Update

I'm over halfway to my 2020 reading goal! One if the benefits of constantly being at home is that I have more time to read, which I'm thoroughly enjoying. Here are the books that I read in May (and June, so far):
46. The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek - Kim Michelle Richardson 47. Wilder Girls - Rory Power 48. Get a Life, Chloe Brown - Talia Hibbert 49. American Royals - Katharine McGee 50. The Mother-In-Law - Sally Hepworth 51. The Proposal - Jasmine Guillory 52. The Wedding Date - Jasmine Guillory 53. The Wedding Party - Jasmine Guillory
Note: The last three are in a series, but I read them out of order. The Wedding Date should be first, then The Proposal and The Wedding Party. I just wanted to read them so badly and that's the order they were available from the library so...
And to mix things up, I thought I'd share what books I'm currently reading (it's a lot of books, I'm just warning you) and the books I have on my holds/to-be-read list.
Currently reading: Thick…

Anti-Racist Resources

Breonna Taylor. George Floyd. Ahmaud Arbery. And so many more it hurts.
It's been a long few weeks (and, if we're being honest, a long too many years). We've seen too many black people be murdered by police officers with too few officers facing actual justice. We've seen black people and co-conspirators participate in protests and uprisings that get more criticism than the murder of black people. 
I understand if, as a white person, you're feeling uncomfortable talking about race, but your (our) discomfort is nothing compared to the terror, anger, and hurt being felt by BIPOC (black, indigenous, and people of color) in this country. So we owe it to our communities and ourselves to sit in this discomfort, learn, and commit to doing better. 
I've pulled together some resources that I find helpful when talking about race, privilege, racism, and police brutality, as well as some resources for putting allyship into practice. Hopefully these help even a little bit.
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Local DC Businesses I'm Supporting

Like many of you, I've been reflecting over the past few months about how and where I spend my money. I've been worried about the local small businesses that I love being able to make it out of this pandemic. So in that spirit I thought I'd share some of the businesses in DC that I've been spending my money at--maybe you'll find something you love and want to support as well. 
I know you aren't all in DC so this may not be as relevant to you, but hopefully you're inspired to find similar businesses near you (or you'll discover one of these that offers shipping to you)!
Take Care Shop This is a local natural beauty and skin care shop that I absolutely love. If, like me, you've been trying to transition to natural products for your skin, this is absolutely the place to shop. I recently picked up this cleanser and (Marissa will be particularly pleased with this one) this sunscreen. I also have this amazing highlighter that I cannot say enough great things…

Daily Gratitude Lists

A few weeks into staying at home I noticed that I was feeling pretty down. I basically stopped writing notes in my bullet journal every day since all of the days were essentially the same and I didn't have anything interesting to record. Then I noticed that a few people I follow on Instagram were sharing short daily gratitude lists. Just a few short bullet points at the end of each day sharing things that they were grateful for. Sometimes these were big things, but more often than not they were small victories or something that just made the person smile. I thought it was a nice way to make yourself notice the good things that happen during the day (especially when the day itself doesn't feel good), so I decided to try it out.
I started by keeping a note open on my phone to add to throughout the day when something happened that made me smile or made me happy and then at the end of the day I began to post these little lists to Instagram. This definitely helped improve my mood th…